Love is conditional.

If love is unconditional, what is causing all the divorces?

How I feel about the way you treat me is going to determine how I respond to you. If I feel good because of your actions towards me, then I am going to try to make you feel the same way. You are going to do the same for me. True?

If at some point I no longer feel good about the way you treat me, I may tell you or I may continue trying to make you feel good in hopes that things will change, but at some point if things have not gone back to the way they were, I am going to stop trying. And then where is the relationship?

People who believe in everlasting, unconditional love are deluding themselves with a dangerous fantasy. Because they believe that if their girlfriend/boyfriend loves them at the start of the relationship, then her/his emotions will never change.

They are the ones most likely to take their significant other’s feelings for granted and therefore quit doing the things that at the beginning of the relationship made them successful.

They withdraw affection, quit with the surprises and spontaneity, let the sex get boring, stop dating their wives, etc. These are the ones shocked as hell when its suddenly broken off… the ones oblivious to the hints along the way: spending less time together, more frequent arguing, nagging, canceling plans, missing dates, criticism, less sex, etc. If you are just starting a new relationship, keep doing the things that are making you successful. If he and she both respect the fact that feelings, including love, can and do change based on how one is treated, both are less likely to become complacent.